Make Room for Something New

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“You have to let go of something to make room for something new.”

Author Cynthia Oredugba (pictured, right) shared this and more at a Women of AT&T Southern California fundraiser for scholarships.

Led by chapter president Georgia Zachary (pictured, left), the event was held this weekend at Marmi at The Point in El Segundo, Calif.

How did I find myself there?

For the last year I’ve led the DIRECTV Women’s Leadership Exchange – an employee resource group for professional development, networking, mentoring and community service.

DIRECTV was acquired by AT&T this summer, creating the world’s largest pay TV provider and a video distribution leader across TV, mobile and broadband.

Among other things, our employee resource groups are coming together. This is how I found myself listening to Cynthia Oredugba talk about change.

“You can’t get better by staying the same,” was another truth she shared that struck a chord.

It reminded me of the DIRECTV Leadership Development Program I attended two years ago.

At the end of a life-changing week, I realized I’d only thought I had a big dream for myself in becoming VP of Corporate Communications.

Coming out of the program, I was energized by the idea of pivoting and stretching into a new area – whether that was investor relations, operations, marketing or something else entirely.

But it wasn’t until the transformative coming together of AT&T and DIRECTV that an opportunity would arise.

Three weeks ago, I moved into a marketing role. It centers on the customer experience, consumer research and the vision for the future of the marketing organization.

This speaks to the opportunities that come from change. And from being part of a newly combined company. And among leaders with a commitment to talent mobility as a way for people to grow and contribute.

It also allows me to explore for the first time my full spectrum of the high-scoring artistic, social end enterprising parts of the Strong Interest Inventory. This career assessment tool links personal interests with a variety of career fields.

I’ve long seen Human Resources, Corporate Communications and Marketing along a related spectrum of careers that blend the qualitative and the quantitative, design and data, and people and products.

Having spent many years in Corporate Communications and HR leadership roles, I’m thrilled to have an opportunity in Marketing.

And now the hard work begins. Applying previous knowledge to new situations. Addressing new business challenges. Adapting to new norms.

It’s a good thing I love learning. Because there’s going to be a lot of it in the near future. And we all need to be constant learners, whether or not we’re changing jobs, functions or companies.

Thankfully I work with a lot of great people who are more than willing to answer questions and share insights.

As I dive into the new role, I’ve been pleasantly surprised by the many parallels between what I used to do and what I do now.

And that’s been the best learning of all. You don’t have to let go of something you’ve loved as you move into something new.

You just have to let it evolve into a new state. It’s about combining what you’ve done with a commitment to lifelong learning to inform what you do today – and tomorrow.

Being Here Now

Arboretum at Halloween

Being here now.

Easier said than done.

There are always plans to make. Projects to start. People to see. Posts to do.

Except for one thing. If you’re constantly living in the future, it’s all too easy to miss the beauty of today.

Goals can be so compelling. So encompassing. So engaging.  So much so that it’s all too easy to get lured into some future state that doesn’t yet exist.

Don’t get me wrong. Visualizing the future is a powerful way to make it happen.

But too much visualization and too little living in the moment can lead to wishing your life away.

It always makes me a bit sad the way people react to Mondays. As if it’s a day to simply be endured. On the way to more enjoyable days of the week.

But you can have as much fun on a Monday . . . as on a Wednesday . . . as on a Saturday. It’s all about your mindset. And embracing every day as potentially the best one of your life.

Sometimes I get so focused on a goal that I neglect to savor the moment. To enjoy the process as it’s unfolding. To make the journey sweeter than the destination.

That’s when my husband reminds me of the sage philosopher, Dr. Seuss. He wisely said, “Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”

The key is to enjoy each moment as it unfolds. How do you do that? By being here now.

Arboretum

12 Steps to Lifelong Learning

Lifelong Learning

The world’s information doubles every 12 months. Americans change careers 7 times over a lifetime. And your toddler or teen still doesn’t come with instructions.

With ever-present change, how can you learn what you need to know in a new situation?

1. Set goals. Decide what you need to learn. Determine what problem you are solving for.

2. Make a plan. Think about how you could best go about learning what you need to know. Identify a few learning sources and draft a brief plan.

3. Talk to people. Ask questions. How did they learn what they know? Would they be willing to sit down with you and walk you through a new task or explain a process?

4. Read. Check out blog posts, articles and books.

On my Kindle reader is What To Do When You’re New. We’re “new” more of then than we think we are. It could be a new job or a new class we’re taking.

If you’re starting a new job, The First 90 Days gives an invaluable road map. It’s worthwhile to do the exercises and answer the question prompts.

5. Stretch. See if there’s a new project you could take on at work that will give you an opportunity to accelerate your learning objectives.

6. Take a class. Go back to school, with MOOCs, your company, local adult education, community college or university extension.

7. Watch a video. Check out TED talks and YouTube videos. Download the apps so you can watch a short video whenever you have a few extra minutes.

8. Make connections. Think about how what you already know relates to what you’re learning. See if there are enough similarities to accelerate your learning.

9. Learn by doing. Put your learning into practice. Adopt the Cal Poly San Luis Obsipo mantra of “learning by doing.”

That’s why I’m on Instagram. I wanted to experiment with communicating through images rather than words.

10. Make your own internship. Take inspiration from Robert De Niro’s character in The Intern. Figure out what needs to be done and go do it.

At my new company, there’s even an app for that. Leaders with projects needing extra help load them into the app. Team members pick a project, learning new skills and getting to know colleagues in the process.

11. Ask for feedback. Ask people what they see that’s going well with your learning plan and where you could do better. Make course corrections based on what they say.

12. Be fearless. A few years ago we introduced social collaboration into our workplace. It represented a new way to work, and it wasn’t one I was familiar – or comfortable – with.

However, I pushed through uncomfortable feelings. I asked questions, even if I thought they might be viewed as stupid. And I was willing to make mistakes.

That’s why I started my first blog, internally, a few years before this one. I needed to “learn by doing” so I could help other leaders do the same.

And a few years later, nearly 90% of employees had adopted a new way to work with social business. That was worth all the awkwardness and the errors along the way.

How are you becoming a lifelong learner?

Keep Calm and Read a Good Book

Keep Calm and Read a Good Book

When the world seems full of rejection, look for bright spots. And make the most of the them.

I choose to see rejections simply as milestones along my journey. They aren’t major rejections. A community involvement role here. A professional association board membership there. And some others along the way.

One bright spot is I got the volunteer job I wanted this year in National Charity League. I’m the inspiration chair for the Palos Verdes chapter. I give a short talk each month to inspire my fellow members.

We’re parents serving communities along with our daughters in middle and high school. We’re part of a national organization fostering mother-daughter relationships in a philanthropic organization committed to community service and giving 1 million hands-on volunteer hours annually.

And we’re busy – juggling children, careers and community.

So my inspiration this month began with a collective exhale. We were gathered on a scenic September evening at the seaside cliffs of the Point Vicente Interpretive Center.

Point Vicente

And here’s what I said.

By a show of hands, how many of you –

  • Have more texts, emails, pings and dings than you can answer?
  • Have more calendar commitments than you can ever do?
  • Feel like everyone but you leads a charmed life on Facebook and Instagram?

Well, welcome to a new school year!

One mom with two school-aged kids is also the junior senator from New York. Her name is Kirsten Gillibrand. In her book, Off the Sidelines, she says if you ask a mother how it’s going, the universal answer is “Um, barely holding it together.”

So you’re in good company with parents everywhere.

But my job is not to depress you. It’s to inspire you.

Since we often meet at the Palos Verdes Library, my theme this year is good books. And it’s a complement to the theme of this year’s president, Francine Mathieson – Be the Good.

And while you don’t need yet another thing to do, how many of you would like to:

  • Increase your concentration and improve your memory?
  • Connect better with people on an emotional level?
  • Feel happier, calmer and less stressed?

Then reading, as little as six minutes a day, can help you do that.

A study on stress was done at the University of Sussex – yes, it’s in England, so it may or may not be on your daughter’s college list.

It showed reading was better at lowering stress than a number of other activities, such as listening to music, taking a walk, drinking tea or playing a video game.

Reading focuses your mind and crowds out worries – with no hangover, extra calories or other bad side effects. What could be better?

Thanks to Debra Young-Stearns and her team, you have a reminder bookmark on your chair about keeping calm and reading a good book.

The next time we meet at the library, visit the new releases section. It’s like being in a bookstore and walking out with every new book you want – for free!

(And post-inspiration talk, I took my own advice and found Frank Bruni‘s terrific book, Where You Go Is Not Who You’ll Be, pictured above).

There’s also a great new book out by Brené Brown called Rising Strong. You may have watched her popular TED talks or read her books. Her new book is about resilience and bouncing back from adversity.

I first heard Brené when I was driving to Lake Arrowhead a year ago to meet our very own Beth Graziano and other friends for a family weekend. And I have a feeling Brené and Beth would be the best of friends.

Lake Arrowhead

My life was busy, so I drove up by myself after the rest of the group. And I found the TED talk playlists to keep me company – pick a topic and you’ll be entertained by 18-minute talk after talk for several hours.

The last one as I wound my way up the mountain was called The Power of Vulnerability. With more than 21 million views, it has struck a universal chord.

I closed with a few words from Brené’s talk. About our children being wired and ready for struggle and being worthy of love and belonging. And about believing that “we are enough.”

Because, as Brown says, “when we work from a place that says, ‘I am enough,’ we’re kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we’re kinder and gentler to ourselves.”

I am enough. You are enough. Enjoy this beautiful season.

Point Vicente Sunset

What are You Learning this Fall?

Back-to-school books

It’s hard to tell who’s more excited about the start of a new school year – my children or me.

While every new season and every new day bring a fresh start, there’s something extra special about the fall.

Maybe it’s the combination of a new school year, a new football season (full disclosure: I work for the company that brings you NFL Sunday Ticket) and a new world of possibilities.

You get the benefit of a new start, without the pressure to make resolutions that a new year brings.

Fall is the perfect time for kids of all ages to recommit to learning. Here are my favorite ideas for learning something new this season.

Go online. Your professional association probably offers a myriad of on-demand webinars. I’ve been working on my APR recertification through the PRSA website, with sessions like Digital News Releases, Twitter PR Secrets and Media Pitching for 2015.

One of my favorite bloggers, Penelope Trunk, has amazing career courses at Quistic. I can’t wait until the end of this month when her series of Myers-Briggs sessions delves into the ENTJ type.

And one of the exciting things about the company that acquired my employer this summer is the access to hundreds of online courses through AT&T University.

Go the library. My neighborhood library has a great section of new releases when you walk in the door. I can stock up on all the latest books with a swipe of my library card.

I just finished Daniel Levitin’s The Organized Mind, with strategies for “thinking straight in the age of information overload.” Because our brains can’t keep track of all the stimuli that bombard us, it helps to set up systems to get information out of our heads and into external storage systems. This premise also reminded me to read the refreshed version of David Allen’s Getting Things Done.

And when my brain really needs a break, there’s nothing like the charming reading room at the Malaga Cove Library. Reading, reflecting, thinking or just chilling out are the perfect activities in this historical landmark built in 1929.

Go back to school. Whether it’s a MOOC or a university extension class or a local community college, there are lots of options. This may be my next strategy for learning Spanish, especially because I need an accountability mechanism!

And going back to school doesn’t necessarily mean doing so as a student. You can learn just as much by teaching a course – the process of distilling your thoughts into a structured framework can be an invaluable learning experience.

Mix up your exercise routine. My evening walks and treadmill sessions just earned me a New Zealand badge, according to a congratulatory email from Fitbit. But besides actually wanting to travel there sometime this decade, I’d like to experiment with some new forms of exercise.

This seemed like the perfect weekend to try Cardio Barre and stand up paddle boarding. And I loved them both. My mind recalled my years of ballet training much better than my body did, so I’ll have get up to speed on the barre over a bit more time.

The mind/body connection between exercise and the brain is fascinating, as Gretchen Reynold explores in her “Phys Ed” column in the New York Times.

Be a tourist in your own town. It’s easy to get complacent and not take advantage of all your city or town has to offer. My husband and I started the holiday weekend with a favorite walk around the Lake Hollywood reservoir.

Our reward afterwards was the Urth Caffe, where we talked about fun things we could do this fall and winter, like go to a few college football games and finally see the Rose Parade in person.

And my good colleague Katie Jenks gave me a great lead on a comedy club. A good laugh is just the thing to put life into perspective and making the living much more fun!

Lake Hollywood Reservoir